Stay committed to your decisions

Posted: 24 June, 2012 in inspiration, motivation, Staying positive
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I made an important decision this week.  Having made this decision and seen the resolve that comes with making a firm choice, it made me realise how important the decision-making process is.  It might be the most inactive part of our plan, something we can do before even getting up in the morning, but it is as vital to our success as any other work involved.

The word decision comes from the Latin word dēcīdere, meaning “to cut off”. So, to decide something is to cut off all other options and choices and choose only one path or action.  It’s a way of determining what you don’t want as much as what you do.

Making decisions is something we do every day and often more than once every day.  It’s like taking a road trip – we are forever determining which direction to take and which road will take us there.  We can’t travel two roads at the same time. A decision is made, we take one route and the other way is no longer an option. If we can’t decide which road to take, we could end up driving around in circles or, at the very least, taking twice as long to reach our destination as if we had just picked a road and stuck with it.

Decisions have to be made that will help us reach our goals.  But who makes your decisions? Marilyn Manson said, “A lot of people don’t want to make their own decisions. It’s much easier to be told what to do.  While it is easier, it definitely isn’t the option that will make you happy.  Many people that I speak to feel powerless in their own lives because they are letting others decide for them.  Your decisions are based on your wants, your goals, your dreams and your needs.  Someone else’s decisions are based on their wants, goals and dreams. Making your own decisions is how you get to stay in control of your own life.

Not making a decision, or letting others decide for you, can be just as costly as making the wrong decision so what have you got to lose?

I made a decision this year to quit working in a job that made me miserable and find work that I love.  It hasn’t always been easy but in making that decision I “cut off” all options that would lead me back to work I didn’t enjoy, even if it did offer certain security.

More importantly, it was my decision.  No-one decided this life for me. I have days where I am struggling but it makes it easier to remember that.  If I were struggling because someone else had decided this course for me I’d be resentful and angry.  But it was my decision and my choices that put me here, no-one else’s.

Every successful person I know made a decision to succeed.  That decision was all they needed to get started because it determined what they would say yes or no to in future. Whether they decided to lose weight or start their own business, they made a decision and excluded all choices that wouldn’t get them there.  And once their decision was made they stuck by it. They lived by the words of Tony Robbins who said “Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.”

My approach my differ but I’ve made my decision and, for now, it still feels like the right one. That’s not to say I won’t one day decide to change course again.  We all have the power to change our minds and I might decide in future that it is time to go back to more secure employment.

But that’s a decision for another day.

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