Knowing what you really want (and don’t want)

Posted: 10 February, 2012 in Uncategorized

It’s hard to be able to know exactly what it is you want sometimes. So many times I’ve sat at my desk and thought, “If only I wasn’t here. I could be doing something else right now.” But what that “something else” is exactly, that thing that would make me perfectly happy, has often eluded definition.

Recently I was looking at a position with a company that, from the outside, looked perfect.  But when I really looked at the service they provided and the role I would play within that company I realised it was not work I would be happy doing. Having that set before me and seeing exactly what it was I was turning down, helped me to see more clearly what it is I really want to do.

I’ve read this somewhere: When you have to make a hard decision, flip a coin. More times than not, when that coin is in the air, you will suddenly know what side you’re hoping it will come down on.  Sometimes the only way to know what you do want is to be given what you don’t want. If that coin comes down heads, and a little voice in your head says, “Damn, I wish it had’ve been tails” you’re one step closer to knowing exactly what you want.

There are also times when we get exactly what we think we want only to realise it’s not what we want at all. Every job I’ve ever had was taken with the thought that this was just what I wanted. It’s only now, having walked away from my last “perfect” job, that I am more sure of what I want because I’ve been able to take stock of what I don’t want.

After years of settling, it’s time for me to be more selective. Knowing what I want is a powerful starting point because when I know what I’m looking for I know what direction to look in. Without that direction, I could be searching for years and still not really know what I’m supposed to be looking for.  Today I have more control over where I’m going to end up because I have a starting point firmly established.

Now, on with the journey.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s