So many people seem to have an answer to the question, “How can I be happy?”
One of the most common suggestions I hear is the importance of living in the present. Constant thoughts of the past keep us from moving on, while thinking of the future gives us an insight into what could be, without actually making plans to get there or taking action now that would see that fantastic future become a reality.
I am guilty of living like this.
Therapists recommend spending five percent of every day in the past and from eight to 12 percent of the day thinking about the future. The rest of the time is to be focussed on the here and now. My statistics are very different to this ideal. I spend too much time in the past, trying to find the lesson in various bad experiences and mistakes. The future takes up just as much time in my head, fantasising a future where those mistakes are not repeated and imagining what I would do if put in the same situations.
One thing I know is that writing is the best way for me to achieve a centred life. When I’m writing I am in the here and now. Right now, all I’m thinking about is this word I am writing (or typing) on the page. When I have finished one sentence, I move on to the next. My thoughts don’t go beyond that. It is so calming. Maybe because when I’m writing I’m doing the one thing that defines me. I don’t have to think about what happened yesterday or what will happen tomorrow because right now I’m doing exactly what I want to be doing, and what I should be doing. I don’t need to be anywhere else when I’m writing, and I don’t want to be.
So I guess that’s my formula for happiness – do what you love. Don’t hold back, don’t put it off, do it as much as possible and enjoy every minute of it while you’re doing it.
Do it now!